You are looking for the best possible experience when you decide to hire a mental health professional. The success of any psychological intervention is an outgrowth of the relationship. When we begin, I want you to understand how my 30+ years of experience have shaped my approach.
My work with others has taught me that change is possible at any age. In my early work with children, I learned that our brains are creative as well as vast store houses of early experiences. From early experiences of bonding, relating to others and reacting to circumstances, we lay down reaction pathways that stay with us as we grow. In this way, the past is always an important part of the present, The key to change is appreciating that our brains enjoy neuroplasticity that allows us change at any stage of life.
WORKING WITH COUPLES: Your most personal relationship is connected to your health and happiness. Past approaches to couples work focused on communication strategies and planned conversations. Those strategies only worked for short periods of time. Recent research has shown us that attachment is the key to couples work. The lead researcher in this area has been Sue Johnson, Ph.D. Her work and that of many others has led to the development of a therapeutic process for couples that has proven successful Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) guides the couple through three stages of connection. First, there current dance of connection/misconnection is identified. Second the deeper needs for attachment are discovered. Third, new patterns of meeting each other's needs are developed. The result is a deeper and stronger relationship. This process is effective with all types of couple relationships and at all stages of the relationship. As a trained EFT therapist, I am honored to work with couples and guide them through this process.
WORKING WITH INDIVIDUALS: When you decide to begin individual work, you step into a relationship of trust and exploration. Together we will examine the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that have brought you into therapy. We will explore the deeper connections in your thinking and feeling that have been causing you distress. In the course of our work, you may be asked to complete homework in order to practice new ways of thinking and behaving. You may be asked to read different materials to expand your understanding of how your mind works and how relationships function. My experience in Developmental Psychology and in working with children from nursery school age and up will be used to help you explore how various mental patterns influence your current well-being.
WORKING WITH PARENTS: Parenting in an intact family is a challenge, while co-parenting following a divorce can be a nightmare. As I work with separated and divorced parents, I am focused on using the skills associated with Emotion Focused Family Therapy to help parents develop protocols that strengthen their children and honor the parental responsibilities to raise competent, secure and successful children. I am actively engaged in the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts to both present material that will be helpful to other professionals and to learn from other professionals.
COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE: When couples divorce, the processes available to them have been very limited. Typically, each person hires a lawyer skilled in litigation and they begin a lengthy and costly process of fighting within the court system. Alternatively, they hire a mediator who serves as a neutral while the couple fights through issues. Until recently, these were the only processes available to couples. The Collaborative Divorce Process is a non-litigation process that helps couples enter into a respectful cooperative dialogue and problem solving stage of moving from a nuclear family to a bi-nuclear family. In this process, the couple maintains control over decisions and they are free to develop plans that meet their needs rather than follow the limitations of the law. More details on this process can be found at www.collaborativepractice.com
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