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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Are You Living Your Life, Or Someone Else’s?

Good to see you,

Have you ever paused to wonder whether you truly want the life you’re living and if you’re living YOUR life, or if you’re just following someone else’s expectations?

This week, I joined Relatable Wisdom to talk with Wisdom Okonkwo about the deeper meaning behind the phrase, “you can be anything you want to be.” We explored how that idea can inspire growth, but also how it can create pressure and confusion, especially when family expectations and self-doubt get in the way.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • Why it’s so important to listen to your life experience

  • How external pressures can cloud what you actually want

  • What happened when an 80-year-old found a new spark through photography

  • How the “read, reflect, respond” process can open hidden doors

  • What it really means to honor your unique path

If you’ve ever felt stuck or unsure about your direction, I hope this conversation helps you feel seen and supported.

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