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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

THE COLOR OF FALL

THE COLOR OF FALL

How Autumn’s Palette Reflects the Beauty of Friendship

Fall isn’t just a season—it’s a metaphor for transformation, connection, and appreciation. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection draws parallels between the changing leaves and the enduring qualities of friendship. As nature turns vibrant, so do the relationships that color our lives.

I live in a part of the country where the chill of fall brings the leaves on the trees to change to beautiful colors of yellows, oranges, and reds. The display is quite smashing, and one must be careful not to crane your neck while driving and run off the road. I love the colors of fall. In fact, I cannot imagine living in any part of the country or the world where these changes would be missed.

Then I think that these trees are quite marvelous. For months, they are green with leaves that blow in the wind and provide cooling shade. Some bear beautiful flowers, like the pink cherry tree in the front yard. When the breeze comes, the pink petals flow to the ground like tiny pink snowflakes. Some trees drop fruit and nuts to feed the squirrels and other creatures. And then, as the temperatures drop, the leaves turn and delight us with a range of colors.

Sometimes, I think people do the same thing. They are steady and predictable. They bring beauty and sustenance into our lives. They care to cover us when we need it, just like the shade of the tree. They drop hints to benefit us and help us to change and grow. They rustle us up when we just want to wallow and know we should not. They will drop everything for us when we need it and rake through their resources to be sure we get what we need.

Sometimes, they can flare up and turn red with anger or embarrassment. Or they may chicken out and disappoint us. Sometimes, they just surprise us by appearing around a corner to delight and distract us. Our friends are flexible just like the trees, and grow along with us throughout our lives. If you are fortunate enough to have a friend who has been planted in your life for some time, take a moment to marvel at them and appreciate them as fall continues to color your world.

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