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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

JULY 4TH

A Celebration of Freedom, Memory, and the Spirit of Community on July 4th

What a fun celebration! This year is special, and every fence row in the neighborhood has decided to display patriotic bunting. Everything is festive, and the mood carries easily into the day.

Memories of other Fourths come flooding back. One time, my father bought some firecrackers and other small things and set them off in the alley beside our house. I remember him using long kitchen matches to light these things and then running like hell. They were probably not very dangerous, but your fingers were still at risk. No one wants to lose a finger. Everyone was excited to see these things shoot above the rooftops. Of course, when they landed, they were still smoldering, so someone had to run around and stomp them out — and that was even better entertainment.

This year, Washington, DC, has been decked out to the hilt. Roads are closed to make way for the crowds, and a giant Ferris wheel has been placed on the Mall. This thing is so big that I wonder whether it is real and, if so, whether it is stable. I do not think I will risk it. The Mall has been turned into a huge celebration venue. One dares not have business downtown, as the streets are blocked and the backup on all the side streets is unbelievable. I am certain that the fireworks will be spectacular, and the military band will entertain the crowds with patriotic songs.

Every community and town will be mounting its own celebration. Families will gather on lawns and in parks to listen to the local high school band and watch the fireworks at dusk. This is a time of true gratitude as we remember how our country was born and how it has thrived.

Our founding fathers were wise beyond belief. They drew on their experiences with other governments and created an experiment that had never been attempted before. They trusted each other and spread that trust to the people. Sure, they made some mistakes, but overall they created a government unique in the world. The thought that every person would be considered and represented was unheard of. The idea that checks and balances would be needed to ensure the integrity of government was truly unique. And the possibility of amending was a brilliant recognition that they could not imagine all circumstances moving forward and needed a formal adjustment plan.

Thank you, Founding Fathers, for this remarkable achievement.

For more reflections on tradition, community, and the psychology of national identity, explore articles on Psychology Today and research from Greater Good Science Center.

If you are navigating family traditions, community connection, or the emotional meaning of shared celebrations, therapy can offer grounding and clarity. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support reflection, resilience, and emotional well‑being.

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