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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

COLLEGE – Choosing the Right School

Choosing the Right School, What Maryland and DC Students Should Consider

Did you have the college experience, or are you having it now as an adult?

Spring is when many students begin searching for the right college. It’s a season of campus visits, exploring new places, and finding a school that truly fits, much like choosing clothes that match your personal style.

This is an important decision for both students and parents.

Cost matters. Try to stay within your family’s budget and look for scholarships. Many scholarships go unused simply because students don’t apply. Taking the lead on this can help with costs and open more options.

Climate is another factor. Some students head north for cold and snow, others go south for warmth, and some don’t care either way. If you have a favorite kind of weather or enjoy certain sports, keep that in mind. You may need different clothing, so include that in your budget.

Once you’ve considered cost and climate, it’s time to look at academics. Academics matter, but they may not be your only priority. Your college counselor will suggest schools based on your grades, but you can explore other options too. Just know this may involve some risk or require personal connections.

Choosing a college is a lot like choosing a suit. You may not use it forever, but it needs to fit well. You’ll likely be there for four years—unless you finish early, as I did.

What you study in college helps shape your future and prepares you for work and new experiences. Many graduates stay in touch with professors and use them as references for jobs or graduate school. College is a key time to figure out who you are and choose a path that may last for years. Whether you stick with your first choice or change directions and meet new people, your college years will have a lasting impact on your life.

Take your time choosing a college. The school you pick can shape your future for many years.

For more reflections on growth, decision‑making, and emotional development, explore articles on Psychology Today and research from Greater Good Science Center.

If you or your family are navigating major life transitions—like preparing for college—therapy can help clarify values, reduce stress, and support healthy decision‑making. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support young adults and families during times of change.

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