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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Playing Bridge

PLAYING BRIDGE

Strategy, Sociability, and the Drama of the Deal

Bridge isn’t just a game—it’s a microcosm of human interaction. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores how bridge blends logic, emotion, and partnership into a rich tapestry of competition and connection.

Do you indulge in this popular game? Is it a game?

Our neighborhood used to have a regular bridge game. We set up two tables in someone’s living room, and members took turns choosing whose house to use. Occasionally, an extra neighbor would show up, but generally, we were a gathering of 8. That makes two bridge tables of 4 each. We tended to rotate around so that you would play with at least two different partners by the end of the evening. The evening was friendly, even though at least two neighbors were cracker-jack bridge players. One had learned the game while flying planes off the early carriers. The other had learned as a toddler at her mother’s knee. She was a real cracker-jack and as gentle and kind as any soul. She knew everything about bridge and would answer any question, but she never complained about losing or revisited any hand or bid. She was a gem.

The game’s descriptions say it can be a casual party game or a serious competition. Our neighborhood game fell somewhere in between. Each person had some skill, and we were each competitive in other aspects of our lives, so this naturally showed up at the table. Compared to others, the interesting thing about this game is that it has techniques and strategies you can learn to improve your game. The more you play, the more serious the game becomes as you learn new conventions and strategies.

Bridge is a partnership game. You and your partner are to develop skills in parallel. There are “secret” codes of communication. Of course, if the other members at the table use the same conventions, they are not secret. Bridge is like a foreign language. Some things that you say have precise meanings. I have often wondered why the language is circumspect. Why not just say, “I have 4 of your best suit, so I think we can beat these other guys!” However, that is not allowed. You must use your card sense to determine what each of you has and land the best contract. Memorizing the conventions is a must!

Then one member of the partnership plays the hand. This can be dangerous. The observer is sometimes judgmental of the player. Now, they are not allowed to say anything, though I must tell you that some partners ignore this convention and blast away. Playing requires concentration, as you must plan ahead and adjust your strategy when the opposition throws curveballs. Concentration goes out the window if your partner is jumping into the fray. Feelings of irritation, fear, embarrassment, and other forms of trepidation jump into the mix, and your concentration is kaputt.

It is a game, but like many other games, it is a serious endeavor and a social treat!

Want to explore how bridge sharpens emotional intelligence and strategic thinking? Visit The Sports Reviewer’s guide to bridge psychology, SAGE’s study on strategy and impression management in bridge, and Bridge MindSport’s breakdown of emotional complexity and partnership dynamics.

If you’re reflecting on social connection, cognitive challenge, or emotional resilience, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support insight, healing, and interpersonal growth.

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