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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Is Traditional Masculinity Harming Your Son’s Emotional Health?

Father’s and Emotional Health

Emotional strength is not about shutting down, it’s about connection. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this conversation explores how cultural myths around “toughness” shape boys’ emotional lives and how families can nurture resilience without shame or fear.

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What happens when boys are told to “man up” instead of being encouraged to feel, express, and process their emotions? How do we raise boys who are resilient, connected, and emotionally strong without shame or fear?

This week, I joined Stacey Chillemi on The Advisor: Health & Healing to explore the myths around “toughness” and show practical ways families can nurture emotional intelligence in boys. We talked about the subtle patterns at home and school that shape emotional health, how to recognize when boys are truly struggling, and strategies to guide them toward confidence and connection.

In this episode, we talk about:

  • How to spot the difference between typical boy behavior and a real cry for help
  • Early experiences that wire boys for emotional strength or emotional shutdown
  • Simple scripts to coach boys through big feelings without shame
  • Better ways to manage conflict, school struggles, and screen time
  • Five practical steps you can take this week to support the boy you love

If you’re raising a son, or care about the next generation of men, this conversation offers compassionate guidance for fostering resilience, emotional depth, and connection.

🎧 Tune In On YouTube: Is Traditional Masculinity Harming Your Son’s Emotional Health?

Want to explore more about boys’ emotional development? Visit Psychology Today’s article on why traditional masculinity harms boys’ emotional health and Greater Good’s guide to raising emotionally resilient boys.

If you’re reflecting on parenting, emotional literacy, or family connection, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support clarity, resilience, and emotional growth.

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