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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

January 1, 2026 – New Year’s Resolutions

Welcoming the New Year with Light, Noise, and New Year’s Resolutions

The new year begins with sparks, sound, and celebration. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores how fireworks, resolutions, and rituals remind us of the power of renewal and connection.

All around the globe, the new year is welcomed with loud noise and displays of color and fire. The sky lights up with sparks, explosive colors, noise, and explosions that both frighten and delight. Families gather on blankets on the lawn or hillside. They arrive early, bring sandwiches and drinks, and settle in for the show. Earplugs are provided for the little ones and sunglasses for the older ones.

The pre-show generally has music groups to entertain or the occasional skit or magician. Everyone has come in anticipation of celebrating the new year. We look forward to beginning again. A fresh start is always welcome. We make resolutions that may last a week, a month, or, if we are fortunate, they may change the course of our lives.

What have been your New Year’s resolutions? The general one that everyone can identify with is to watch what we eat and do more exercise. How did you do with that one last year? If you take yourself seriously, you made a change and stayed with it. Maybe you committed to walking each morning or evening. Perhaps you joined a gym and made time with a trainer who encouraged you and held you accountable. Some of you organized a group to play pickleball. Your diet changes may have been subtle but essential. Maybe you cut back on sweets, limited alcohol, or switched your salad dressing.

Committing to yourself is essential. After all, you know yourself and what you need. Prioritizing yourself is often the hardest thing to do, and yet it is critical. Finally, make that appointment for an annual physical. Determine what you will do to keep yourself fit. Resolve to look at your relationships and take note of the changes that will improve each one. After all, connections with others do keep us healthy.

Have you ever wondered why the new year is welcomed with loud noise and blinding displays of color? Sometimes, I think it is to wake us up to the reality that change is possible and essential. Once a year, we prioritize reviewing where we are and where we want to go. This is a good habit and would probably be welcomed more often. But once a year is excellent. We focus on reflecting on the past year, examining where we want to be 365 days from now, and planning the route to get there. If you do this well, you will have a map for the next 12 months. If you publish it, you will have a team to support and encourage you. If you flesh it out, you will reach your goals, and a year from now, your life will have changed for the better.

Happy New Year.

Want to explore how rituals of renewal shape our lives? Visit Psychology Today’s article on the psychology of New Year’s resolutions and Greater Good’s guide to how New Year’s traditions foster connection and growth.

If you’re reflecting on resolutions, self-care, or relational growth this season, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support clarity, resilience, and emotional growth.

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