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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Voice, Vulnerability, and the Bicycle Theory of Courage

PUBLIC SPEAKING

Voice, Vulnerability, and the Bicycle Theory of Courage

Public speaking isn’t just performance, it’s purpose. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores the emotional journey of speaking aloud, the fear many face, and the support systems that make it possible to grow.

How many of you have been or are engaged in public speaking?

Remember in grade school when you had to go to the front of the class and give a presentation? I know that some kids in my class actually stayed home sick that day because they were so afraid. I was precisely the opposite. I could not wait to get in front of the class, stand as tall as possible (which was pretty hard since I was short), and belt out my speech. I suppose I liked speaking because I also like singing. The audience didn’t intimidate me at all. I thought of them as quite friendly and was happy to present my song or speech as the occasion required.

Recently, I have been speaking on podcasts about my recent book for journaling and about some of my history as well. Speaking is a comfortable situation for me, as the host of each podcast has been well-versed and engaging. The podcast is like having a lovely conversation with a friend.

So, why do so many people fear public speaking?

I have a theory that I will call “the bicycle theory” of public speaking. Now, hang in there with me. Most American children learn to ride a bicycle. Riding requires a lot of trial and error. The rider also needs support. Learning to ride a bike requires both the learner and the teacher. I remember our neighbors teaching their girls to ride. The father had a long pole that attached to the back of the seat and enabled him to keep the bike upright while the child attempted to pedal and balance. Seeing him walk, then run down the street, was quite a sight! Eventually, all three girls were successful with the bike.

So, how does learning to ride a bike relate to public speaking? There are two essential common elements: a coach and repetition. No one is great at public speaking the first time out of the box. Speaking to strangers takes practice. Just like learning to ride a bike, you need support, encouragement, and constructive feedback. Sit up straight. Stop playing with your hair. Use your hands a bit less. Take a breath and think before you launch. Your speech teacher will present these and many other pieces of advice in the course of learning how to be a good public speaker.

But why speak in public?

History and current events show us that speaking in public can be pretty dangerous. You’d better have a good reason for taking that risk. People who speak in public have a mission and a passion. They want others to know what they know and to care. Public speaking is precisely what it says. It is a speech that others need to hear.

Want to explore how public speaking builds confidence and emotional resilience? Visit Psychology Today’s article on the cognitive benefits of speaking and Toastmasters’ tips for overcoming fear and improving delivery.

If you’re exploring voice, vulnerability, or emotional expression, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support confidence, clarity, and connection.

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