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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Retirement

Retirement is a Season of Choice, Change, and Possibility

Are you looking forward to this phase of life, or are you already there?

The topic of retirement looks different depending on your situation. Some companies have a mandatory retirement age, giving you no choice but to leave. Others allow you to choose when to retire, though subtle pressures may still signal that it is time for a new generation to step in. And if you run your own company, you may enjoy the freedom to decide entirely on your own terms.

Some couples save diligently to retire early and sail off into the sunset. They invest enormous energy into their careers with a specific plan: leave plenty of time for travel while they are healthy, strong, and eager for adventure. I admire the planning that goes into this and wish them well.

For others, retirement is a blend. Some combine retirement with work, planning long trips that take them away from the daily grind while still enjoying what they do. After their adventures, they return refreshed and ready to focus — until the next journey calls.

Retirement can also have a generational focus. Some families pass their businesses or professions along to the next generation. Farmers have done this for centuries. Bakers and chefs are famous for founding family businesses that last for generations. Other service professions follow this pattern as well — perhaps your accountant has already passed you along to a son or daughter.

In addition to new professional or family pursuits, retirement often involves a physical move. Many retirees no longer need a large house and seek warmer weather. Florida is known for welcoming retirees and offering a sense of stability. Retirement communities are growing along the Gulf Coast, where warm weather and cool breezes are common. Some retirees even leave the country altogether.

Portugal, for example, is experiencing a retirement boom. Its culture is welcoming, the cost of living is affordable, and the healthcare system is excellent. These factors matter deeply at this stage of life. The abundance of sunny days supports an active lifestyle, and the large expat community helps ease potential language barriers.

Ultimately, retirement presents choices far beyond career or location. Perhaps your grandchildren live in another state, and you now have the freedom to move closer and enjoy more time with them.

Enjoy!

For more reflections on life transitions, identity, and emotional well‑being, explore articles on Psychology Today and research from Greater Good Science Center.

If you are navigating retirement decisions, identity shifts, or questions about purpose in this new season, therapy can offer clarity and grounding. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support resilience, meaning, and emotional renewal.

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