Featured Interview with Stacey Chillemi
Hello,
I wanted to share a recent interview I participated in with Stacey Chillemi titled The Real Reason You Snap at the People You Love.
One of the central themes of this conversation is that many of our strongest reactions are not solely about what is happening in the present moment. Often, today’s disappointments, conflicts, and misunderstandings activate emotional experiences that were formed much earlier in life.
Throughout nearly five decades of clinical work, I have observed that people frequently believe they have moved beyond their childhood experiences, only to discover that old patterns continue to influence their relationships, self‑perception, and responses to stress.
In this interview, we explore:
- Why reactions sometimes feel bigger than the situation itself
- How early experiences become emotional templates that continue into adulthood
- Why a difficult day at work can unexpectedly become conflict at home
- The difference between asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and “What happened to me?”
- How curiosity opens the door to understanding and growth
- Why memories are often stored in images, sensations, and actions rather than words alone
- Gentle ways to begin exploring old experiences without becoming overwhelmed
- How healing old patterns creates healthier relationships for ourselves and future generations
One of the most important messages from this conversation is that understanding our history gives us choices. When we can identify the experiences that shaped us, we gain greater freedom in how we respond to the present.
You can read the full interview here:
The Real Reason You Snap at the People You Love
Warmly,
Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst
For more reflections on emotional development, identity, and healing early patterns, explore articles on Psychology Today and research from Greater Good Science Center.
If you are navigating old emotional patterns, relationship challenges, or the impact of early wounds, therapy can offer clarity and support. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support insight, resilience, and meaningful change.
By Dr. Gloria K Vanderhorst
