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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Understanding the 3 R’s of Growth and Change

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Have you ever noticed how your past still shows up in the present, often without warning?

This week, I joined Khudania Ajay on The Author’s Voice podcast to talk about my new book, Read, Reflect, Respond: The 3 R’s of Growth and Change. We discussed how early experiences shape who we are today, and what it takes to move forward with awareness and healing.

In our conversation, we explored:

  • Why our brains begin storing emotional experiences from birth
  • How unexamined trauma can quietly disrupt our lives
  • The process behind writing Read, Reflect, Respond
  • What personal growth really looks like at any stage of life
  • Who the book is for, and how it can help
  • Why reflection is essential for healing

If you’ve ever felt like old patterns keep showing up, this conversation might offer a new path forward.

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