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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Why Women Carry the Emotional Load

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Have you ever wondered why you seem to carry the emotional weight in your relationship?

It’s a common dynamic I see in my work, and this week on Dr. Zoe’s podcast, we talked about it in depth. So many women feel exhausted from doing the emotional heavy lifting, while their partners stay distant or unavailable.

In our conversation, we explored:

  • How boys are conditioned to shut down emotionally

  • Why that disconnection carries into adult relationships

  • The toll it takes on women and how it shows up

  • What healing looks like for both partners

  • How to protect your peace and still stay connected

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