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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Wise Older Woman

WISE OLDER WOMAN

Guidance, Courage, and the Quiet Power of Seeking Wisdom

She’s not just a character in folklore—she’s a mirror of your own readiness. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores how the archetype of the wise older woman invites us to risk vulnerability, seek transformation, and embrace the challenge of growth.

Where do you find one? When do you need one?

Several cultures have the tradition of consulting a wise older woman. Often, this woman is shrouded in mystery and set apart from the group. Visiting her requires courage and a willingness to journey outside one’s comfort zone.

The wise older woman was powerful and would often test your strength and sincerity before issuing her advice. After all, you had to prove worthy of the advice. Risking the visit was insufficient; you had to pass the test of trust. Were you worthy of this advice? Could you handle the tough stuff? The wise woman was not a vending machine. Her wisdom would not be offered until you could prove that you would accept the advice.

You had to trust yourself. In making the journey, you were taking a risk. As you moved forward, you would face doubt. You would ask yourself: Why am I doing this? Do I need help? What if I can’t handle it? How will I cope? Various questions accompanied you on your journey. The journey was challenging, testing your commitment and willingness to seek wisdom and apply it.

One of the reasons that the wise woman was a journey away was to test your sincerity. Every culture has had a wise older woman who could be trusted to see you clearly and understand your capabilities. The journey tests your sincerity and willingness to accept advice. Throughout life, we are given advice. Our families seem eager to provide us with direction and even pressure us to move in their direction. The choice to seek out the wise woman is entirely different.

At that point, we have decided to place ourselves in the hands of another. This act of “leaning in,” knowing that we must find a way to follow the advice, takes courage and trust. Trusting another human being with our deepest longings and fears is an act of courage. Traveling to the wise woman takes fortitude. Accepting the direction of the wise woman takes trust. We are being tested, and simultaneously, we are being empowered as we receive the challenge.

Empowerment is a quiet experience. Purpose and intent soak into our souls. Often, we are challenged to squeeze out this courage and use it in ways that frighten us and strengthen us. Sage advice is usually hard to execute. Yet, the freedom that comes as you do is genuinely delicious.

Want to explore how the wise older woman archetype empowers transformation? Visit Judith Stafford’s reflections on reclaiming the wise woman, Symbolism Hub’s guide to the wise old woman in folklore, and The Shakti School’s insights on aging and empowerment.

If you’re reflecting on mentorship, emotional courage, or personal growth, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support insight, healing, and empowerment.

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