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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Your Childhood Wound Is Still Making Decisions for You

Featured Podcast Conversation on The Advisor

Hello,

I wanted to share a recent podcast conversation I joined on The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi titled Your Childhood Wound Is Still Making Decisions for You.

In this episode, we explore how early emotional experiences continue to influence adult life in subtle but powerful ways. Many of the reactions people experience in relationships, work, and daily stress are not only responses to the present moment, but also reflections of earlier emotional patterns that were formed in childhood.

A key focus of my work is helping individuals recognize these patterns so they can respond from awareness rather than repetition. When people begin to understand what belongs to the present and what is being activated from the past, it creates space for real change in how they think, feel, and relate to others.

In this conversation, we discuss:

  • How childhood emotional experiences continue to shape adult behavior
  • Why everyday situations can activate old feelings of rejection, abandonment, or pressure
  • How to distinguish between present‑day reality and past emotional triggers
  • The role of reflection, curiosity, and self‑awareness in breaking long‑standing patterns
  • Practical ways — including writing, movement, and observation — that help uncover emotional origins
  • How early family dynamics can contribute to patterns such as people‑pleasing or emotional withdrawal

We also explore what becomes possible when people stop reacting from old emotional templates and begin responding from the present moment.

You can listen to the full podcast here:
Your Childhood Wound Is Still Making Decisions for You Podcast

Warmly,
Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst

For more reflections on emotional development, identity, and healing early patterns, explore articles on Psychology Today and research from Greater Good Science Center.

If you are navigating old emotional patterns, relationship challenges, or the impact of early wounds, therapy can offer clarity and support. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support insight, resilience, and meaningful change.

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