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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Raising Emotionally Open Boys

Bridging Emotional Gaps and Building Connection

Emotional openness is a gift we can give the next generation. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this conversation explores how boys learn to shut down feelings, why men often hesitate to take emotional risks, and how parents and caregivers can nurture resilience and connection.

Good to see you,

This week, I talk about the emotional lives of boys and men, how generations of boys have been taught to shut down their feelings, and why fostering real emotional connection can be so challenging. We explored the ways culture shapes boys’ inner worlds and how those lessons can create distance in adulthood.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • How early expectations shape boys’ emotional expression
  • The critical role fathers play in expanding a boy’s inner world
  • Why men often hesitate to take emotional risks
  • Small, intentional ways parents and caregivers can build connection
  • How raising emotionally accessible boys can change the path of a generation

This is a conversation about understanding what boys need, bridging emotional gaps, and supporting them in growing into resilient, emotionally open men.

🎧 Tune in on YouTube: Raising Emotionally Open Boys

Want to explore more about boys’ emotional development? Visit Psychology Today’s article on helping boys develop emotional literacy and Greater Good’s guide to how fathers shape boys’ emotional growth.

If you’re reflecting on parenting, emotional literacy, or family connection, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support clarity, resilience, and emotional growth.

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