Skip to content

Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

SNOW

SNOW

Nature’s Metaphor for Relationships, Identity, and Presence

Snow isn’t just a weather event—it’s a mirror. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores how snowfall evokes wonder, complexity, and emotional insight. From the science of flakes to the weight of relationships, snow invites us to examine how we show up in the world and who we shelter along the way.

As the snow falls, the sight is quite mesmerizing. Do you ever wonder where those flakes come from or how far they have fallen? Snow develops when the atmosphere is cold enough to form ice crystals around dust particles in the air. As the snow falls, we get entertained by the sense of floating and dancing in the air as it falls. Once on the ground, the snow provides protection for small plants against the cold! I had no idea. Once accumulated, the snow entertains the children and some adults and frightens others as it is a real inconvenience.

I wonder why the snowfall is mesmerizing. The shape of those flakes is fascinating, and snow comes in different forms as well. Today’s snow is light and fluffy. Others are wet and heavy. People can be like that as well. Who do you find fascinating in your life? Who is heavy and weighs you down? Do you sometimes wish they would melt away and leave you alone? You are not alone. Many people have relationships that weigh them down. Often, we fail to give ourselves permission to let the heavy ones melt away, particularly if they are family members.

As the snow falls, it sticks to the trees and bushes and piles up on the outdoor furniture. This morning, I was fascinated by the snow piled on the slats of the outdoor rocker. The snow accumulated in perfect prisms on each slat. Fascinating! I was momentarily reminded of science experiments in elementary school with prisms and bending light into an array of colors. This reminds me of how complicated we can all be. We may present as simple, and the truth is that we are all full of complications and different shades that blend together in fascinating ways. As the snow accumulates, I wonder how my presence is accumulating. When I am with my family, do I present as an interesting “shape” with a history that can mesmerize or entertain? Can I change shape for different atmospheres and be attractive to others? Does my presence provide protection for others? Who do I know that needs my protection or will benefit from my protection?

If snow reminds you of the weight or wonder of relationships, therapy can help you explore those dynamics with clarity and compassion. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support emotional insight and relational health. For a deeper look at snowflake formation and symbolism, visit National Geographic’s guide to snowflakes and Psychology Today’s reflection on snowflakes as symbols of identity.

related blog post by Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Read more of my stories and reflections

summer friends, two boys discovering the power of playing games and speaking while a parent watches patiently, symbolizing raising Boys’ Emotional Development, of boys cry, and emotional disconnection in Maryland and DC.

The Power of Play – Bring Back Board Games!

The Power of Play and Why Families in Maryland and DC Play Board Games Remember board games? The ones gathering dust on a shelf or tucked away in a closet? Or maybe you’re one of the rare adults who still loves a good game night and keeps one spread out
Read My Post
An emotional parent, waiting and filled with regret about failure, sitting quietly on a park bench displaying empathy and courage, waiting for a package after a sorting delay, symbolizing resistance, emotional distance, self‑discovery, and the potential for reconnection in Maryland and DC.

Men, Emotion & Identity | Understanding Emotional Health

Why Emotional Health Begins with Reconnection Hi everyone, I recently joined Justin Louis‑Jean on the Just INwords podcast for a thoughtful conversation about men, emotion, identity, and the quiet pressures that often go unspoken. With over fifty years of experience working with individuals, couples, and families, I have seen how
Read My Post
A parent with hobbies searching for the perfect book in a messy library, symbolizing defiance and emotional reflection in Maryland and DC.

How Does Messy Happen? | Why Clutter Appears and What Science Says

The Quiet Creep of Clutter, And Why Science Says It’s Normal Have you ever noticed how quickly things can get messy? You come in from work and put your keys, papers, and other things on the counter or perhaps a small table by the door. If you leave them there,
Read My Post
A woman reading about self-worth and identity after falling for relationship scams, symbolizing garage girl friendship and emotional connection in Maryland and DC.

Scams

SCAMS Vulnerability, Outrage, and the Emotional Cost of Exploitation Scams don’t just steal money—they erode trust, dignity, and emotional safety. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores how aging increases vulnerability, why systemic protections fall short, and how outrage can fuel advocacy and healing. What is it about
Read My Post