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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Hanukkah

The Festival of Lights and the Miracle of Connection

Hanukkah is more than a holiday, it is a reminder of resilience, light, and the miracle of human connection. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores the deep tradition of Hanukkah and how its lessons extend into everyday life.

Eight days of celebration bring family and friends together. This celebration honors the Second Temple in Jerusalem, and it dates from the second century BC. That is a deep tradition. Hanukkah is called the “Festival of Lights.”

One day’s supply of oil for the lamp lasted for eight days. The people celebrate this miracle as a sign of their own longevity. This miracle of light is clearly a sign of value. G-d looks down on His people and announces their value through the continuation of light.

Valuing each other and celebrating the miracle of life is available to all of us. Each of us is uniquely made. If you set up a workshop to accomplish this, you would not have enough staff to complete the task. We celebrate the birth of a child because we are amazed. How is this person created? How complicated is a single baby? How many parts are there?

We are born connected to another person. We have lived inside another person for over nine months, and at birth, we have all the cells necessary to enter the world fully formed and capable of life. Of course, we will need help. That is why it takes two others to create us. We will be cared for, loved, and supported as we grow into unique individuals. Even if I have an identical twin who enters the world at approximately the same time, I am unique. The fact that I come first or second will affect me forever.

Hanukkah is eight days of celebration and giving thanks for a place of worship, the growth of a people, and the miracle of being sustained by forces beyond our control. No matter how much science, invention, or exploration we do in the universe, we will never catch up to the miracle of our existence.

As the holidays unfold and celebrations are planned, let us be grateful for life. I know that life is not easy. I know that surprises cause you to change course, injuries limit your next steps, and people get in the way of progress. No matter. Each of us will hit roadblocks, disappointments, and complex curves. We have been given resilience to adjust and to try new ways. We have been given signs that cannot be easily explained so that we will experience wonder and know that power exists beyond ourselves. We have been given family, friends, acquaintances, and strangers to remind us that we are not alone and that we were born connected to another.

We spend the rest of our lives seeking connection, enjoying company, and holding each other. As you light a candle this holiday, remember that connection is the key to life.

Want to explore more about the meaning of Hanukkah? Visit Psychology Today’s article on the meaning of Hanukkah and Greater Good’s guide to how Hanukkah fosters resilience and connection.

If you’re reflecting on traditions, resilience, or ways to deepen connection this season, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support clarity, compassion, and emotional growth.

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