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Written by Online therapist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, Ph.D.

Let the Thoroughbreds run

LET THE THOROUGHBREDS RUN

Leadership, Initiative, and the Power of Natural Drive

Some people don’t just walk into a room—they gallop. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores how “thoroughbred” personalities shape group dynamics, and why recognizing and supporting natural leaders can elevate everyone.

Now, this may have you thinking about horse racing. I lived in Baltimore, Maryland for a long time so the Pimlico Race Course was a popular place and as a young person I was once thrilled to go to Churchill Downs. I used to ride horses and loved the experience of trotting around the ring or trail riding. I am short and a friend of mine once put me on one of her horses that was more than 17 hands. I was certain that I could touch the sky and a part of me was sure I would be thrown and die. Surviving the trail ride was my one goal. But this theme is not about horses.

I want to talk about groups. Every group from early childhood, including those toddler groups that your mother took you to, has a thoroughbred or two in it. What to do? Some people are just made to take initiative. I think they come out of the womb directing the obstetrician on what to wrap them in and where to place them. Honestly, I know infants are born with this survival intelligence and I am sure that certain ones survive by directing traffic. If you have one of these kids, you know when to get out of the way!

I remember watching one of these children at a first-grade school play. She had a minor role herself, but she had clearly memorized all the dialogue for her peers. If they hesitated or stumbled, she would prance over to them to feed them their lines. If they positioned themselves on stage in the wrong spot, she would tip toe over to gently place them in the right place. She must have watched the teacher do this gentle move and was now duplicating the process. The play went off quite smoothly and she was so proud at the end. She had helped everyone put on a perfect performance! Obviously, from her point of view.

These “Type A” personalities are valuable, even when they are a bit annoying. If you have ever watched a Triple Crown horse race, you will know what I mean. These three-year-old Thoroughbreds are prepared for the ultimate challenge. They have confidence and have come out of the womb with this sense of power and control. They have presence as they prance forward with head up and chest out. They offer a form of regal resistance when approaching the gate. They have strength that you can see in their legs and chest as they push forward to get ahead of everyone else.

Thoroughbreds walk among us, and we would do well to recognize them. Their posture is erect and regal. Their presence is noticed by others. Their wisdom is like a crown on their heads. Their grace is subtle but obvious. Let them run. Watch them organize and perform. Support them in any way they ask or need. Enjoy the outcome. Take pride in the race they have run and the joy they have shared. Let the Thoroughbreds Run.

Want to explore how natural leaders shape group dynamics? Visit Sharon Khen’s leadership lessons from horse herds, Psynet Group’s Triple Crown of Thoroughbred Leadership, and Equinox Coaching’s insights on herd behavior and leadership.

If you’re reflecting on personality, leadership, or group dynamics, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support emotional insight and leadership development.

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