Rugged Roots, Bug Battles, and the Beauty of a Flyover
New England is a study in contrasts, stunning from the air, challenging on the ground. For individuals in Bethesda, MD and beyond, this reflection explores the seasonal extremes, cultural grit, and enduring charm of a region built on resilience.
I have never lived in New England, but I have relatives who do, and at one point, my parents spent a couple of years there. I keep asking myself, what is the attraction? Winter seems to be the permanent season.
Oh, I know you will object and tell me about the wonderful times on Martha’s Vineyard, at least in the one or two months that you can reach the island without freezing to death on the trip. You will no doubt point out the lush forest that covers most of Maine. Yes, I have been there, and the forests do go on forever.
The place I visited in upper Maine was exceptionally remote. The nearest gas station was at least a half-day’s drive away. The camp was well-equipped, and the bugs were plentiful as well. A walk in the woods was a survival challenge. Who will live, black flies or man? Not my cup of tea, so to speak.
Visiting in the summer, when you can open the cabin wide to let breezes flow through and when the lake is not frozen solid, is the only time I can imagine being there. Winter would be brutal.
My parents retired to New England to be close to their young grandchildren, to help out as they could, and to be helped as well. However, they had a small dog that required walking at least twice a day. Imagine that you are pushing 90 and your small dog has exuberance for the snow, and the sidewalks are covered in ice. Get the picture? That adventure did not last long before a move to sunny Florida.
At the same time, I do have a favorite view of New England. I love flying into the airport in the fall. Bright oranges, deep yellows, a hint of peach, and vibrant reds cover the landscape. The best way to see New England in the fall is from the air. Stunning! Gorgeous!
But once on the ground, you must contend with the bugs. Even though the black fly season has passed, there still may be some of these guys hanging around, and the stink bugs are very popular in the fall. All of this makes a colorful walk in the woods a time to cover up thoroughly. That means long sleeves regardless of the temperature, gloves, and one of those hats with the netting. Sound good?
Still, I have to admire the New Englander. They have a reputation for being rugged. They deserve it. As a break from the crushing snowfall, you could join a quilting party that will satisfy the need for friendship. You might even find a rug-hooking group to fill the time.
The New Englander has always been rugged, and I am grateful for the significant role they played in the start of this country. I imagine the ruggedness of the place prepared them for persistence and stubbornness.
I will do a “flyover” in the fall, but prefer the beach.
Want to explore how geography shapes personality and emotional resilience? Visit Psychology Today’s article on place and personality and National Geographic’s feature on climate and behavior.
If you’re reflecting on seasonal transitions, family dynamics, or emotional adaptation, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support clarity, resilience, and connection.
By Dr. Gloria K Vanderhorst
