Author: Dr. Gloria K Vanderhorst

The Health Revolution | December 4 at 1 PM EST

Sometimes schedules shift, but the message remains the same. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this update shares the new air date for Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst’s first TV interview and what viewers can expect.

Hi there,

Quick update: my very first TV interview on The Health Revolution was originally scheduled for today, but it’s now airing on Thursday, December 4, at 1 PM EST.

I’ll be sharing the journey that led me to psychology, what decades of helping people heal have taught me, and why reflection and compassion are essential for emotional growth. Plus, I talk about my new book, How Not to F$%! Up Being a Father, which helps dads raise sons who are emotionally aware, confident, and connected.

Thanks so much for your support, and I hope you can tune in Thursday at 1 PM EST on e360tv.

🎧 See you Thursday!

Want to explore more about emotional growth and parenting? Visit Psychology Today’s article on raising emotionally aware sons and Greater Good’s guide to how reflection and compassion build emotional growth.

If you’re reflecting on parenting, emotional literacy, or personal growth, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support clarity, resilience, and connection.

Tv Interview about Healing, Fatherhood, and the Power of Honest Conversation

Today marks a milestone. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this television debut is a celebration of emotional growth, fatherhood, and the lifelong journey of helping others heal.

Hi friends,

Today is a very special day, my very first television interview is airing on The Health Revolution.

In this episode, I share the journey that led me to psychology, what decades of helping people heal have taught me, and why reflection and compassion are essential for emotional growth. I also talk about my new book, How Not to F$%! Up Being a Father, which helps fathers raise sons who are emotionally aware, confident, and connected.

It has been an incredible experience to speak honestly about healing, relationships, and the ways we grow, and I am so grateful for all of your support along the way.

You can watch the episode today on e360tv at 1 PM EST.
Click here to watch

Thank you for celebrating this milestone with me. Your support means the world.

With gratitude,

Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst
Psychologist, Author, and Speaker
www.drgloriavanderhorst.com

Want to explore how emotional growth and fatherhood shape family connection? Visit Psychology Today’s article on raising emotionally aware sons and Greater Good’s guide to how fathers shape emotional intelligence.

If you’re navigating parenting, emotional healing, or relational growth, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support clarity, connection, and emotional depth.

9%

Context, Compassion, and the Complexity of Homelessness

Numbers don’t speak for themselves—context gives them voice. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores how the figure “9%” reveals the shifting landscape of homelessness, and why empathy and action must follow understanding.

That is a small percentage. Yet the average return on investments in the stock market is about 10.5%, considered particularly good. If your money grew steadily at that rate year after year, you should be content with your broker. However, if your mortgage loan carries a 9% interest rate, you should immediately shop for a lower rate and fire your mortgage broker. On the other hand, if you receive a 9% raise on your salary, you should be over the moon, as the average raise currently hovers at 3 to 5%.

The point is that the number by itself means nothing. You must have context. Recently, reports from the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development showed that the homeless population has increased by 9%. The actual percentage of people experiencing homelessness in the United States is 0.2%. At first glance, 0.2% may seem like a very small number. But in a country of more than 330 million people, it represents hundreds of thousands of men, women, and children without shelter. That is why accuracy matters. Numbers alone do not tell the story until we give them context. With the recent influx of immigrants, there is an expectation that this figure could rise further.

Our homeless population is made up of many different groups. Some are emotionally unstable, and since the closing of many mental institutions, the streets have become their home. Some are displaced residents because inner cities are being revitalized with condominiums and shops, causing lower-priced housing to disappear. We no longer have boarding houses or small, inexpensive apartments for those on the economic margin. Some are unemployed for a period and rely on shelters and support agencies to help them return to the workforce.

The makeup of our homeless population is diverse. In the late 1800s, the “homeless” person often traveled around the country doing itinerant work. This “open road” lifestyle was more a preference than a necessity. The itinerant worker was not wealthy but was comfortable moving from place to place, being self-supportive, and exploring the country. This person or group of people was productive citizens. In the 1880s, the collective name for these mainly men was “hobo,” which has since been romanticized as an adventurous approach to life. We no longer romanticize the homeless traveler. World War II put everyone to work, and when the mass return of soldiers flooded breadlines and soup kitchens, homelessness grew again.

So, what does 0.2% mean today? When President Obama’s administration launched an initiative to end homelessness in 2010, they anticipated a process that would take approximately 10 years to complete. At that time, the percentage of the homeless population was already 0.2%. Today, that same figure remains, but with a troubling 9% increase in the total number of people affected.

Want to explore how housing costs and policy shape homelessness? Visit Pew’s analysis of housing costs and homelessness, National Alliance to End Homelessness’ guide to rising rents and risk, and Homeless Garden Project’s breakdown of structural causes.

If you’re reflecting on social justice, emotional resilience, or systemic change, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support insight, compassion, and advocacy.

Gratitude, History, and the Power of Persistence. Thanks!

Thanks is more than a word, it’s a legacy. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores the roots of Thanksgiving, the influence of quiet heroes, and the enduring impact of gratitude in relationships and community.

Thanks is such a simple word. Today, we celebrate a group of people who were truly thankful to have survived. In 1621, a small group of English settlers came together in their new land to express gratitude for survival and to share that gratitude with the Wampanoag people who had helped them. The event between these two groups lasted for three days. In a way, we continue the tradition with Thanksgiving on Thursday and relatives staying until Saturday or Sunday.

The Pilgrims and the Wampanoag ate together, danced, and celebrated the harvest and the survival of the Plymouth colony. Without the help of the Wampanoag, the settlers might not have made it through that first year. They were taught how to cultivate native crops such as corn and squash, and how to fish and hunt in the region.

It is interesting that turkey became the centerpiece of the modern Thanksgiving table, since there is no clear evidence it was served in 1621. They likely ate venison, wild fowl, and fish, but probably not cranberries as we know them today. The Wampanoag were skilled teachers of horticulture, hunting, and survival, and their knowledge made all the difference for the newcomers.

Without the persistence of one woman, we might not have this national holiday at all. Sarah Josepha Hale, a magazine editor in the mid-19th century, spent decades campaigning for a national day of thanksgiving. She was the editor of Godey’s Lady’s Book, one of the most widely read magazines of its time, with over 150,000 subscribers. It amazes me that the dedication of one determined person could shape a tradition that still endures generations later.

Who is helping you? Take time to thank them in writing. Notes and letters carry meaning far beyond the day they are written.

In what way will you persist to create a change that lasts long after you are gone? Who or what are you influencing? As you sit around the table, enjoying the food and the people, make a plan to have influence and make a difference.

Want to explore how gratitude shapes emotional health and community connection? Visit Psychology Today’s article on the science of gratitude and Greater Good’s definition and research on gratitude.

If you’re reflecting on legacy, emotional connection, or relational growth, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support clarity, purpose, and emotional depth.

Empathy, Anesthesia, and the Brain’s Relentless Archive

Whether you’re recovering from a procedure or reflecting on how trauma shapes behavior, this post explores the emotional and neurological impact of surgery. For those in Maryland and DC, it’s a reminder that healing begins with curiosity and compassion—for your body and your mind.

First, I have tremendous empathy for anyone who has gone through surgery, no matter how small or how critical. Having someone take a knife (I know surgeons call them scalpels, but let’s face it, they are sharp knives) to you will never be fun, easy, or desirable. I guess it can be desirable when they are removing something that should not be there and is causing you a lot of trouble. In that case, I will say, “Bravo!”

I have written about anesthesia before, and you can look that up. Anesthesia is truly a wild ride, but a clear indication of the truth that our brains hold onto everything. You might think of your brain as a hoarder. Hoarders collect things, find places for them, and do not want to let go of them. Most of us collect junk and stuff, but periodically we sort, let go, donate, or throw away the things we no longer value. The hoarder keeps everything regardless of its value. Well, that is your brain. Trust me. This organ has folds for a reason. Every one of those nooks and crannies is storing details. Some of it is valuable and some of it is junk, but in some way, all of it is important.

It is essential because it makes up your history. We are a collection of our interactions with others and our experiences with the world around us. Your brain is the storage facility that keeps all of this stuff. I know it is hard to believe, but every interaction, every experience, every piece of your life is in safe storage.

Let’s stop and ask, “Why?” If your brain does this for you, then a purpose must exist.

The purpose is to be helpful to you. As we grow and have experiences, we develop ways of functioning. Some of these are strengths and some are weaknesses. Right now, the failings are my focus. If you have a weakness, it has a history. If you can access that history, then you can address the weakness and make changes. If you could not access the history or understand how this weakness came about, then you could not create change. Thank your brain for holding onto the details.

I am not saying that your brain does a great job of helping you to assess these weaknesses and work toward change. In my experience, you have to be motivated to ask your brain to give you the history and to help you understand the weakness before it will give up its treasure. However, when you dare to ask, your brain stands ready to provide.

Look at how you function. Be curious about the history of this behavior or way of thinking. Everything has a history. Open yourself to this curiosity and welcome the challenge of figuring out why you do certain things, why you think specific ways, and why you react with certain feelings. Your brain holds the details, history, and sequence of events that have resulted in this behavior, way of thinking, or way of being. Let your brain give you a surgical view.

Curious about how surgery and anesthesia affect cognition? Explore JAMA’s insights on cognitive decline after surgery, or read about Dr. Charuta Furey’s compassionate approach to brain surgery. For recovery strategies, check out NeuroLaunch’s guide to post-operative cognitive dysfunction.

If you’re navigating emotional recovery after surgery or seeking clarity on behavioral patterns, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support healing and insight.

LOOKING IN THE MIRROR

Reflection, Ritual, and the Journey to Self-Awareness

Mirrors don’t just reflect faces—they reveal stories. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores how daily self-awareness practices can deepen emotional insight, foster resilience, and improve overall well-being.

The mirror can be traced back to at least 6000 BCE, when a polished rock, obsidian, served to present a reflection. This particular rock could be polished to create a surface like glass. Obsidian is a black rock capable of showing a reflection when polished and protecting the owner from negative energy. Of course, seeing your reflection in a pond dates much earlier than the stone.

We are all drawn to looking at ourselves. Walk down a street full of shop windows and you will see people looking at the merchandise and themselves. Children are fascinated with their reflections as well. Each of us is truly curious about who we are. What makes us tick? What pleases or scares you? What motivates or discourages? From day one, we have wanted to know ourselves.

Unfortunately, life keeps us busy, and we rarely take the time to look and reflect. Some of you may be the exception and have set aside regular time for reflection. Bravo! I honor you. Most of us are busy moving to the next responsibility and rarely slow down or pause to review who we are, what we have done, and what we want to be. Setting aside a time of reflection will improve your health!

Reflection can become a powerful ritual. Get up 15 minutes early or stay up 15 minutes later and sit quietly with your thoughts. Give yourself time to breathe deeply and let your muscles relax. They do not have to work at this time. Let your mind be free to explore. Have paper and pen readily available to capture what your mind chooses to present. Think of this time as a private showing. You do not have to work at this. Your mind has been waiting for this attention and freedom, and it will give you valuable insights and reflections.

This mirror on your day and your life may surprise you. Every day has something to show us about ourselves. Yet, we rarely take the time to receive these insights and lessons. We are busy ‘doing’ and must take time for ‘being.’ The benefit is knowing yourself better and choosing a path forward rather than just being drawn along. The quality of your life will improve. Aristotle once said: “Quality is not an act, it is a habit.”

Start your habit of reflection today.

Want to explore how mirror work and self-reflection support emotional growth? Visit Peaceful Soul Quest’s guide to mirror technique and self-awareness, Psychology Today’s reflections on mirror work and emotional insight, and WellWisp’s breakdown of mirror reflection and personal growth.

If you’re reflecting on identity, emotional clarity, or personal transformation, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support insight, healing, and self-discovery.

CALM AND VULNERABLE

History, Resilience, and the Emotional Landscape of a Nation

Calm and vulnerable—two words that rarely sit together, yet perfectly describe the emotional pulse of a country in flux. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this reflection explores how historical struggle, national identity, and emotional resilience shape our collective future.

This title is in quotes because it appeared in Maria Shriver’s Sunday Paper. She is referring to the mood in the country. Maria lives in Los Angeles, so the swirl of complex and contradictory feelings makes sense. She also lives in a changing America where the future seems uncertain and rapidly unfolding.

In truth, this describes the history of this country from the beginning. When the Europeans crossed the water to establish a foothold here, native peoples already occupied the country, and perhaps when they arrived, they also misplaced others. Our country has been flooded with people who have changed the landscape, yet the country remains.

Patrick Henry, in a speech at the Virginia Convention in March of 1775, put it this way:
“I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience. I know no way of judging the future but by the past.”

Looking at the past, we see a variety of struggles: settlers with Indians, immigrants with residents, slaves with landowners, north with south, Republicans with Democrats.

Many view the present and predict doom. On one level, that makes perfect sense. I am sure that doom-sayers have been present since the Pilgrims’ landing. After all, half of them did not survive the winter! The doom-sayers have been partially correct. Our people have paid very, very high prices for preserving this land and this government.

The Civil War should have broken us. The loss of young, brilliant, vibrant life should have broken our backs. More men died in the Civil War than in World War I and World War II combined. We had to get far into the Vietnam War before the numbers matched.

If we judge the future by the past, we will remain. We have certain qualities and assets that are unlike other countries. We have numerous natural resources. We have a vast area of fertile ground that will continue to feed us. We are geographically positioned to provide natural barriers of protection. Looking at those facts, we are situated in an ideal place. The only variable that can truly defeat us is ourselves: the people.

Want to explore how emotional resilience and civic engagement shape national identity? Visit Psychology Today’s guide to national resilience, Brookings’ breakdown of civic health and renewal, and Maria Shriver’s Sunday Paper for weekly reflections on hope and meaning.

If you’re reflecting on emotional resilience, historical identity, or civic purpose, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support insight, healing, and purpose-driven living.

My First Television Interview about Healing, Fatherhood, and the Power of Reflection

Healing begins with honesty. For individuals in Maryland and DC, this conversation on The Health Revolution explores how decades of psychological work, personal growth, and compassionate insight can shape families and futures.

Good to see you,

I recorded my very first television interview for The Health Revolution with Adriana Morrison.

It was an exciting and meaningful experience to discuss the work that has shaped my life. We explored how my path led me to psychology, what decades of helping people heal have taught me, and why reflection and compassion are essential for emotional growth. I also shared insights from my new book, How Not to F$%! Up Being a Father, which helps fathers raise sons who are emotionally aware, confident, and connected.

This conversation reminded me how powerful it is to speak honestly about healing, relationships, and the ways we learn and grow. I am deeply grateful to everyone who has encouraged and supported me along the way.

📺 The episode will air on e360tv on December 1 at 1 PM EST.

Thank you for celebrating this first with me. Your support means more than words can say.

Rooting for your growth,

Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst
Psychologist, Author, and Speaker

Want to explore how emotional growth and fatherhood shape family connection? Visit Psychology Today’s article on raising emotionally aware sons and Greater Good’s guide to how fathers shape emotional intelligence.

If you’re navigating parenting, emotional healing, or relational growth, therapy can help. Learn more about individual therapy in Maryland and DC or explore therapeutic approaches that support clarity, connection, and emotional depth.